How to Be the Michael Jordan of Dating
So what do Michael Jordan and online dating have in common? Not much on the surface. He didn’t meet his current wife Yvette online. He met her in a Miami nightclub, where she reportedly caught his attention while “freak dancing” with him.
Everyone knows Jordan as the GOAT (greatest of all time). The guy who went 6 for 6 in NBA Finals appearances, changed the game as we know it and became the most recognized athlete on the planet — all while looking suave as hell.
However, Jordan didn’t always garner that same level of respect. He was indeed recognized as one of the best players in the league from the get-go, but he was also seen as a guy who couldn’t win it all despite his scoring prowess.
As a player in his early-to-mid 20s, Jordan plowed through opponents and racked up stats like a college student racking up phone numbers. But he didn’t find true greatness until he was older and more mature and he started racking up championship rings.
Are you getting the correlation to dating yet? If you’re in your 30s, despite your past conquests, it might be time to start chasing that ring.
So, How Did Jordan Do It, and How Can You Do It?
Jordan didn’t win a single championship until he linked up with legendary coach Phil Jackson, the Zen Master. Jackson made MJ realize that, no matter how good he was individually, he couldn’t win a championship without making his teammates better. Jackson knew how to put all of his players, including Jordan, in the best position to succeed.
And this is where the lesson to be learned about dating comes in. It doesn’t matter how much game you have, you can’t do it alone. Like Jordan, you need your Zen Master to put you in the best situation to get that ring.
You can go up to a girl at a bar or a party and get her digits, but what are the chances that you’re actually compatible? This is where you put aside your ego, and start letting the wisdom of being a bit older work for you.
Use the Matchmaking Tools at Your Disposal
An online dating site like Zoosk can help you find the right woman, based on what you want and who you are - not just who happened to be there on a particular night at closing time. Like Jordan having a gameplan before getting down, you can know who you’re going to date, learn about them ahead of time and know if they’ve got what you’re looking for.
If you’re looking for an educated woman, might I suggest Elite Singles? This site boasts a more particular clientele (80% of their users have university degrees) and they use an algorithm to find you a match. Take that for advanced stats.
And even if you prefer to go the Wilt Chamberlain route, focusing on raw numbers, you can find what you're looking for on an online dating site as well.
The point is, even the best need help. A service like Zoosk or Elite Singles can be the right coach to take you over the top. In any event, there’s no risk and nothing to lose. Ask Jordan, putting up empty statistics all by your lonesome is not going to get you anywhere.