Field Guide to Online Daters
Common Pitfalls for Women in Online Dating
No one likes to focus on the negative, but being aware of the mistakes that women tend to make in the world of online dating is important for one's own actions. By understanding the common pitfalls, you can chose behaviors that are different from these pitfalls. You can consciously choose the right behaviors in attracting men in the world of online dating. Modify your behavior and attract the right man in your life by understanding these pitfalls.
1. Wearing Too Much Makeup or Revealing Clothing
Wearing too much makeup or revealing clothing in a profile picture is a turn-off for any man. A man wants to date a woman who has confidence in her beauty. Wearing heavy makeup and revealing clothing makes a woman appear to be insecure, even if she really is confident in her personality. Just remember the following words as you create your profile picture and go on dates: keep it simple.
2. Nervousness and Lack of Confidence
Silence can be a good thing in a relationship. On the first date, a woman should allow a man to direct the flow of the conversation. She should not jump to reveal every little thing about herself. Keeping an air of mystery is good for a woman. For women who struggle with talking out of nervousness, using a visualization technique may help her to deal with this nervousness. She should envision a successful evening in which a man is directly the conversation, and she adds a little bit here and there. She should see herself as poised, refined and showing no need to reveal more information than necessary for the first date.
3. Using swear words or slang
When a woman does speak, she should use her words carefully on a first date. Using slang or swearing is an instant turn-off for a man who is seriously pursuing a woman for marriage. No man wants to see his future wife swearing at the children. One way to avoid this is by being conscious of the words one is about to say. A woman should think about the things she is about to say and whether they may offend a man with vulgarity.
These are three pitfalls that women can easily fall into on a first date. As long as she remains conscious of her behavior, a woman can choose to charm a man instead of making him want to head for the hills.